I recently read a very interesting blog about the dynamic of siblings that have a special needs sibling in their family.  It was very interesting stuff!  Basically the point of it - treat your special needs child as you do your other child.  Expect the same, discipline the same, value them the same - makes sense really. 

For example, don't allow Ollie to hit without consequences just as I expect the same from Aubrie & Everett.  I hope Aubrie and Everett will both go to college, or find a career they fall in love with - I hope the very same for Ollie.  (PS - not everyone goes to college and that's ok - proof - my DaddyO - super successful farmer - can't spell for the life of him, but he can do anything!)


Really this topic hasn't crossed my mind much.  Since we found out Ollie most likely had DS during my pregnancy, I knew my kids would love her no matter what, because she is their sister.  And they do.  They RAVE about her!  And why not?  She is pretty darn cute!


My kids are very young at 5 and 3.  I really don't know what their lives will be like as they go through school, then college, and eventually married lives.  I think Ollie will be a positive impact on their lives.


I think Ollie will honestly make them more compassionate and accepting of others.  Something everyone could use more of.  I also think they will learn patience, joy, and extreme love through Ollie Faith.  In turn, I think Ollie Faith will learn so much from her big brother & sister - some of it good - some of it is a bit frightening - Everett has A LOT of ornery things in his bag of tools!  Standing in the toilet is first on his list of lessons - oh boy I better prepare myself now!

My two sisters have greatly enriched my life.  In fact, I can't imagine my life without Abbie & Maggie, my two best friends & partners in crime.  I think Ollie will be the same for Aubrie and Everett regardless of her special needs.  I think she will be extra-special to them!

I still believe their lives will be typical & we will be a very typical family - well actually we have an awesome family so scratch typical out!  I envision a lot of slap fights, but a lot of hugs.  A lot more tattling, and a lot more kisses.  A lot of time outs & fit throwing, but even more moments of joy & laughter.

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